Valentine's Day, The Holiday of Love

By: Betty Dangler
Friday, February 11, 2022

Valentine’s Day, The Holiday of Love


Would you find it easier just to ignore this holiday?

For those of us who have lost loved ones, the answer is probably a resounding “yes.” Yet, if you really think about it, you have received love, given love and shared in all kinds of love whether it be from a spouse, child, mother, father, sister, brother, best friend. Valentine’s Day can celebrate and remind you of all the love you have shared even if the person is no longer with you.

How do you make this day special when you have lost a loved one?

 Acknowledge that the day can be difficult. Refocus the day and make it about giving and receiving love of all kinds.

Invite some close family and friends to share the day with you. Celebrate the love and the memories you have shared of your loved ones who are no longer with you. Remember to give yourself permission to laugh and to cry. Even your children may want to be a part of this celebration.

Send a card or flowers to someone you know who is having a difficult time. I remember when my husband died and how if felt when I received flowers from my brother. I could not believe he would even think of me on this holiday. He made me feel so special.

Think of acts of kindness you could do throughout the day. These acts do not have to be big, and they will put the focus on others which helps in the healing process. By the way, you are spreading love which helps you to feel good about yourself.

Love yourself and take care of yourself. Eat healthy, exercise, participate in a yoga class, journal.These are all steps you can take to help you heal.

Love never dies. No one can take away the love and memories you have of your loved ones. They will always live within you.


Happy Valentine's Day to you and your loved ones !


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