Personalize the Funeral

By: Betty Dangler
Thursday, March 14, 2024

Whether you want to remember your loved one with a traditional funeral or non-traditional funeral, you can personalize the services. Design a service that pays tribute to your loved one.

You are probably familiar with writing an obituary, putting together a video, and writing eulogies. But you can take personalization to another dimension, celebrating a life well-lived.

Pick a theme that reflects the life of your loved one. For the service, you can select readings. Ask yourself what legacy has your loved one left you? What do you want to remember about your loved one that you can carry out in your own life?

Incorporate personalized items that express the happy memories that you shared with your loved one. You can include their favorite color, favorite candy, memorabilia that depicts their life’s accomplishments, special events in their life, etc. Remember this is a celebration.

Music also adds an element of emotional connection to your loved one. What was their favorite song? Is there a song that reminds you of your loved one? Is there a song that you shared with your loved one? Is there a playlist of songs that they enjoyed?

With technology today, you can invite those who cannot attend in person to be part of the celebration too. Keep your loved one’s memory alive with family and friends.

When you create a personalized funeral service, the healing process can begin for you as you grieve. Your loved one left you a legacy. Determine what it is and celebrate it.


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