The Forgotten Holiday
Valentine’s Day can be known as the forgotten holiday for grievers. They are probably so relieved that they were able to survive the December holidays, and now, here is the holiday that celebrates love.
Do you ever think of reaching out to someone who has lost a loved one and let them know you are thinking of them on Valentine’s Day? Valentine’s Day is a celebration of the love you have for another. Grievers have lost that special someone, whether it be a husband, wife, child, parent, best friend. These are the special people in their lives with whom they shared their love.
If you’re wondering what can you do or say to be a supportive and loving friend, you are not alone. Unfortunately, most people weren’t taught how to help someone who is heartbroken, so reaching out can feel uncomfortable. In fact, it feels so uncomfortable that people don’t reach out at all.
“I don’t know what to say, so I don’t say anything” is a common thought. But what if you reached out in spite of your discomfort?
If you do not know what to say, these few ideas might help you:
“I thought today might be hard for you, so I wanted to send you a hug.”
“I don’t know what to say, but wanted to check in and see how you’re doing today.”
“How are you feeling today?”
Reaching out to someone who is heartbroken can mean so much to them. It is a way of showing your support, your care, and your compassion. You can even help them celebrate their loved one on this day of love, Valentine’s Day. In keeping with tradition, Valentine’s Day has always been associated with the giving of chocolate. You can even share a box of chocolates!