Toast our Valentines

By: Betty Dangler
Monday, February 10, 2020

Toast our Valentines

How does one heal a broken heart? Those of us who have lost our spouses, our partners, know the pain of losing the “love of our life”. It is a pain that, I know from experience, you will never forget. As we approach this Valentine’s day, we are reminded of this pain once again.

How does one deal with this pain? Even though your partner, your spouse, may be gone physically, your love for that person will always be with you and will always be a part of you. Their life and the time you spent with your loved one are a gift to you. As you share these experiences with close family and friends, you allow others to get to know the special bond you had with the “love of your life”.

As I look around at my friends, I have come to realize that there are a lot more of us who have lost our spouses and partners. I wanted to figure out a way to support these individuals. Valentine’s Day is usually for couples and restaurants are filled with couples celebrating this special day. So, I decided to open my home and celebrate Valentine’s Day. There are usually 12-15 people who come to dinner and each person brings something to the dinner to share. On this night, we toast our Valentines and raise our glasses to our spouses and partners. We enjoy a meal together and share some of our special memories of our loved one.

Valentine’s Day is a celebration of those relationships built on love. As we approach Valentine’s Day, I invite you also to toast your Valentine and share the special memories of your loved one. This is part of the healing process that helps to mend a broken heart.


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