Why Does Grief Hurt So Much?

By: Betty Dangler, Grief Recovery Specialist
Monday, April 9, 2018

~~Why Does Grief Hurt So Much?
The pain of losing a loved one can be overwhelming at times. It hurts so much that you don’t
know if you will ever get over the pain. When you lose someone you love so dearly nothing any one can
say or do will ease that pain. The pain that you feel is that of a broken heart. How do you heal a
broken heart? For each of us the journey of healing is different.


It is difficult for others to understand the emotional impact of your feelings of loss. As a result, this can
leave you feeling isolated and alone. Friend and relatives mean well when they try and give you logical
reasons why you should be happy rather than sad, but grief is emotional not logical or intellectual. 
No matter how sound their logic, it still does not help to ease the pain in your heart.


You can take comfort in the fact that you experienced a love and a relationship that was such a gift.
Death can take away the person, but it cannot take away the fond memories of this loved one. Recovery is not about forgetting. It is about enjoying memories. It is about dealing with your dreams and expectations for a future that will now be different than the one you planned. It is about finding joy in your life once again.

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