Feeling Stuck

By: Betty Dangler
Wednesday, August 15, 2018

~~Have you ever felt in a funk and did not know how to get out of it? As I am writing this question, this is exactly how I am feeling now and I am not sure how to get out of it. Something is missing and I cannot put my finger on it.


I try to think of all the things that may be affecting me. In my work I am surrounded by those who are dealing with grief due to loss of a loved one. Recently, I have learned of family and friends who are fighting various illnesses in their lives and some may not make it until the end of the year.  Another friend is taking care of her husband with dementia so we are not able to plan to do fun things together any more. Another friend, who sold her house in New Jersey, is permanently moving to Florida in the Fall. This is the loss of another friend who means a lot to me.


What does all this mean? How am I supposed to handle it? Why does it have such an impact on me right now? I feel like I have lost my direction in life?  As I am writing all this down, I have come to realize that I am experiencing different types of losses. These losses are causing me to feel sad, keeping me in this “funk”, and to feel the emotional response of grief.


I have been thinking a lot about this "funk" and even told a friend of mine who I usually confide in and respect her insights. She recommended that I write these thoughts and experiences down in a journal. I used to journal when I first lost my husband, but then stopped in the last few years. I am going to make an effort to journal again.


The second thing I am trying to do is to get back to walking two miles a day on the treadmill. I decided not to turn on the TV while I am walking. I want to rid my head of all the distractions and noise so I can clear my head and think more clearly.
Lastly, I guess I need to continue my role as “social director” of my friends. I am usually the one that gets everyone together to go to dinner, a show, etc. In this area, I also want to look to make new friends, friends that look for fun things to do.  I know this will help to rejuvenate my spirit.


I figured if I kept my list to three things, I would be able to accomplish most of them. I have started walking again and reached out to my friends. Today I will make a real effort to start to journal again. I will let you know how this all works out and if it helps me get out of my “funk”. If you feel the urge, write back and let me know what works for you to get out of your “funk”. I look forward to hearing from you. You can write to me at danglerfuneralhomes@gmail.com.
 

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